Ask White Feather #4
Anonymous asks: "What makes a 'good, true' relationship?"
I would say that a "good true relationship" is one grounded in and based on unconditional love. We might react to each other from mental and emotional levels outside of unconditional love but, being based and grounded in unconditional love, we can be aware of that and not let those mental and emotional reactions overcome our basis in unconditional love. We do not lose sight of that unconditional love. When one in the relationship stays grounded in unconditional love and sees the other slip into emotional and mental reactions they do not let themselves slip into it either and are thus able to keep the relationship anchored in unconditional love. The tables may turn and the next time it is the other who stays anchored in unconditional love. A "good and true relationship" is therefore one that does not lose its moorings from unconditional love despite forays into mental and emotional games. It is one in which unconditional love endures through all relapses into mental and emotional games.
When issues come up, they will be seen and realized as opportunities to clear things in a "good true relationship." They will be appreciated as they are worked through because they lead to and strengthen the one-ness the relationship is based on. In a relationship not based in unconditional love and one-ness, issues fester and grow and take over the relationship. They are fed and grow into battles in which the only ending is one person winning. And, of course, both people lose. When based in unconditional love, with an awareness of that, a "good true relationship" sees every issue as an opportunity for transformation and learning and self-realization. Every issue is a gift that shines light on and transforms our resistance to unconditional love. A "good true relationship" has no expectations because expectations are conditions. A "good true relationship" has nothing to prove because unconditional love needs no proof. A "good true relationship" is not based in emotions because all emotions are conditional and reactionary. A "good true relationship" is not based on thought. It is based solely in feeling. It is a matter of God recognizing God and feeling good about it. That involves seeing through all the dust and smudges on the mirror. It means feeling the love and not just seeing and reacting to the images. A "good and true relationship" is a mirror of the heart. Most relationships mirror thoughts and emotions. In a heart mirror, thoughts and emotions can never destroy and dislodge that which anchors unconditional love.
When issues come up, they will be seen and realized as opportunities to clear things in a "good true relationship." They will be appreciated as they are worked through because they lead to and strengthen the one-ness the relationship is based on. In a relationship not based in unconditional love and one-ness, issues fester and grow and take over the relationship. They are fed and grow into battles in which the only ending is one person winning. And, of course, both people lose. When based in unconditional love, with an awareness of that, a "good true relationship" sees every issue as an opportunity for transformation and learning and self-realization. Every issue is a gift that shines light on and transforms our resistance to unconditional love. A "good true relationship" has no expectations because expectations are conditions. A "good true relationship" has nothing to prove because unconditional love needs no proof. A "good true relationship" is not based in emotions because all emotions are conditional and reactionary. A "good true relationship" is not based on thought. It is based solely in feeling. It is a matter of God recognizing God and feeling good about it. That involves seeing through all the dust and smudges on the mirror. It means feeling the love and not just seeing and reacting to the images. A "good and true relationship" is a mirror of the heart. Most relationships mirror thoughts and emotions. In a heart mirror, thoughts and emotions can never destroy and dislodge that which anchors unconditional love.
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